“Gay Marriage” Is Unjust to Children

Washington D.C., Jul 3, 2012 / 04:07 am (CNA/EWTN News).- The legalization of “gay marriage” in America, even on a civil level, is unjust to children and poses a threat to religious liberty, warned Bishop Salvatore J. Cordileone of Oakland, Calif.

“Marriage is the only institution we have that connects children to their mothers and fathers,” he said. “So really, the question is, do you support that institution?”

In a June interview with CNA, Bishop Cordileone, who leads the U.S. bishops’ Subcommittee for the Promotion and Defense of Marriage, explained that Church teaching against the redefinition of marriage on a civil level as well as a sacramental level is a matter of justice.

“Marriage is about fundamental justice for children,” he said. “Children do best with a mother and a father.”

He acknowledged that advocates of “same-sex marriage” point to studies that appear to indicate that children can do just as well with two parents of the same sex as with two parents of the opposite sex.

However, he called much of this research “flawed” and pointed to a recent article published in the leading peer-reviewed journal, “Social Science Research.” The article analyzed the 59 studies on the topic used by American Psychological Association and found that they were problematic because they utilized self-selecting or “small, non-representative samples” of the population.

In contrast, he said, a recent social science study conducted at the University of Texas at Austin – entitled “The New Family Structures Study” – examined a very large, nationally-representative and random sample of American young adults who were raised in different family environments, including with same-sex couples and with their married, biological parents.

The study measured various areas of wellbeing, including social and economic condition, psychological and physical health and sexual identity and behavior. It found significant differences between the individuals raised by their married biological parents and those raised in other situations, and “in no area were children better off in an alternative arrangement.”

Based on sound social science, this study complements common sense and “demonstrates what we’ve always known,” Bishop Cordileone said. “Children do best with a mother and a father.”

The bishop explained that this issue is of crucial importance because “we cannot have two different definitions of marriage simultaneously in the country.”

“Only one definition of marriage can stand,” he said. “This is not expanding the right of marriage. It’s changing the definition, or taking away something is essential to marriage – that it’s the union of a man and a woman for the purpose of the binding of the two and the procreation and education of the next generation of offspring.”

Bishop Cordileone also warned that the redefinition of marriage poses a serious threat to religious freedom. This is not merely a potential threat, he said, but one that is already being manifest in numerous ways.

For example, he observed, Catholic Charities agencies in numerous archdioceses have already been forced out of the adoption business because they believed it was best to place children only with a mother and a father.

The “rights of conscience and parental rights” are also at risk, particularly when it comes to education of children.

He pointed to an instance in Massachusetts in which a couple objected to their kindergarten-age child being taught about same-sex families at school. The parents tried to pull their child out of class but were prohibited from doing so. When the father went to the school to object, he was arrested and taken to jail.

If the definition of marriage is redefined and “to object to that is being a bigot,” Bishop Cordileone said, “well then the state is justified in not allowing a parent to pull his child out when the child is being taught what they believe are fundamental principles of justice.”

“But we know it’s contrary to fundamental principles of justice,” he continued, “because out of justice for children, we need to do the best that we can to help them grow up with their mother and their father, married to each other in a stable relationship.”

Bishop Cordileone then emphasized that “gay marriage” is not an isolated problem but is rather connected to the broader issue of misunderstanding sexuality.

“This isn’t a new threat to marriage,” he explained. “It’s a huge problem, and it’s gone on for decades.”

He noted that the advent of the birth control pill led to an “explosion of contraception” that “divorced procreation from the conjugal act.” Other erosions to marriage quickly followed, including no-fault divorce, which was “a huge blow to marriage,” and experimenting with “open marriages.”

Suddenly, the traditional marks of marriage – fidelity, permanence and openness to children – were all gone, he said. Eventually, this led to a culture of “widespread promiscuity” as sex lost its meaning, a phenomenon that was serious “facilitated” by the common use of contraception.

Now, the bishop pointed out, marriage is seen merely as being about the legal benefits offered to the individuals entering into it, rather than as “a child-centered institution.”

But if marriage is simply about intimate relationships between adults, he asked, “why should the law even get involved at all?”

He observed that there is no real governmental reason to recognize sexual relationships between adults.

What governments throughout history have had a societal interest in, he said, is the well-being of dependent children who are born into the society. These children are necessarily born from the union of a man and woman, and this is why the government has an interest in encouraging stable marriages as a type of union with the potential to bring new life into the world.

The Church likewise acknowledges the importance of marriage for the sake of children and society, Bishop Cordileone said. Its members are therefore called to work to defend marriage in civil law, recognizing that “intact, healthy families make for a healthy society.”


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10 comments to “Gay Marriage” Is Unjust to Children

  • Maria

    We need to pray for the gay person, because he has a cross to carry and that is to be Celibate. With Gods grace he can do it.

    The gay agenda though are gays that hate, and only think about themselves because they do not care about children or anyone else. They have money though, and they know that they can change minds especially politicians and others, in that way they bully their way to get their way. They do not have anything else better to do.

    They started to have momentum by having people feeling sorry for them. But they went to far, because they are trying to rule over anyone that objects to their agenda.

    I pray that the gay agenda will be crushed. Because it is destroying souls and our children, grandchildren, families, and our conscience then finally our Country.

    Our children are the ones that are most at risk and who will stand up for them, it has to be all of us who care.

    First unborn children and grandchildren are being killed in the womb of their mothers, and now this.

  • Br. Christopher Sale

    Isn’t life confusing enough for children. Children need a mother and father. Not same sex parents. And that goes for other situations. In my neighborhood 2 women had babies because as they say “their biological clock was ticking” These women are selfish thinking only of their needs. A child needs 2 parents.

  • Francis Butler

    God bless you and your excellent work.

  • Br. Christopher Sale

    Johnny, I’m very aware what going on in the priesthood. However people need to stop accusing priest who are following Christ. Not all priest do this. I’ve been around priest most of my life. I’ve only known one priest to be a pedophile.So stop labeling them all the same. Thats outrageous and you know it. And as a gay brother I have no interest in children. And God forbid I ever come across one that does.

  • Bill

    First off, I’m not a big fan a gay couples adopting children. Second it is true, that children get much of sexual identity from their parent of the same sex. Therefore, it could follow that a child in a single parent household is living in an environment that lacks “proper” sexual role models.


    Thanks for the reply, Bill.

  • Anne

    The abuse of children by priests is 2%, The abuse of children in the schools is 5%. The abuse of children by their parents and caregivers is nearly 80%. All abuse of children is wrong, but if catholic priests are so villified should not all sections be equally convicted? The media would never publish these facts as they hate the catholic church.
    Say the Rosary every day as requested by Our Lady of Fatima. No catholic worth their salt would not be saying their daily Rosary in these precarious times.
    “If I had an army to say the Rosary,” Pope. Pius IX once said, “I could conquer the world.”
    God bless you all,

  • Todd


    @Johnny Rockett

    God is love. He designed the human race to bear children as he desires us to call upon HIM as our father and The Blessed Virgin Mary as our mother. The moral authority of Jesus cannot be eroded by Judas. Think about this… The apostles of our Lord preached the gospel and let the chips fall where they may. The Lord founded the RCC. There are many good priests and bishops. This man is most certainly one of them. If you are angry, pray the Rosary and pray for those who have abused the Lord’s trust.

    Blessings and Peace

  • Bill

    Should we remove children from single parent households?


    Hello Bill,

    I am little curious, who said or promoted that? As always, I look forward to your reply.

    God bless,
    John Quinn

  • lisag

    The fact is that the majority people would not want their children to be gay, because deep inside all people know that the gay lifestyle is against the will of God. So those Christians who say they are gay and good Christians are in the same mode of those who say they are pro choice and good Christians. Or any kind of sinner. It just does not compute. Legalizing gay marriage only lets gay people say, “see I’m normal”. Just like when they adopt kids. Gays suffer from the knowledge that most would not want to do what they do. They want people to accept them and like them and so they are willing to force the issue with court decisions and laws. Since the gay gene has not been found I would say that Satan is the cause of their problems. Satan will work with any age, any sex, any income, any race to influence the mind with his lies.

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