Catholics: Examine Your Consciences Very Carefully Before Endorsing “Same-Sex Marrige”

“Same-Sex Marriage” Is Clearly Contrary To God’s Plan For The Human Family.  Catholics Who Endorse Evil Damage Their Relationship With God.

By:  Bishop Thomas Tobin

My dear Brothers and Sisters,TobinBishopThomas

Since the legislative approval of “same-sex marriage” in Rhode Island, a number of people have requested that I offer some guidance on this development. It is for that purpose that I write at this time. In particular I wish to invite members of the Catholic Church in Rhode Island to a moment of prayer and reflection as we respond to this new challenge of the post-Christian era into which, clearly, we have now entered.

First, like many others, I am profoundly disappointed that Rhode Island has approved legislation that seeks to legitimize “same-sex marriage.” The Catholic Church has fought very hard to oppose this immoral and unnecessary proposition, and we are most grateful to all those who have courageously joined us in this effort. When all is said and done, however, we know that God will be the final judge of our actions.

As I have emphasized consistently in the past, the Catholic Church has respect, love and pastoral concern for our brothers and sisters who have same-sex attraction. I sincerely pray for God’s blessings upon them, that they will enjoy much health, happiness and peace. We also offer our prayerful support to families, especially parents, who often struggle with this issue when it occurs in their own homes.

Our respect and pastoral care, however, does not mean that we are free to endorse or ignore immoral or destructive behavior, whenever or however it occurs. Indeed, as St. Paul urges us, we are required to “speak the truth in love.” (Eph 4:15)

At this moment of cultural change, it is important to affirm the teaching of the Church, based on God’s word, that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered,” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, #2357) and always sinful. And because “same-sex marriages” are clearly contrary to God’s plan for the human family, and therefore objectively sinful, Catholics should examine their consciences very carefully before deciding whether or not to endorse same-sex relationships or attend same-sex ceremonies, realizing that to do so might harm their relationship with God and cause significant scandal to others.

Despite this serious regression in the public morality of our state we need to recognize that there are other major issues that demand our attention. We must continue to engage our culture, remembering that Jesus called us to be “the salt of the earth and the light of the world.” (Mt 5:13-14) Be assured, therefore, that the Catholic Church in the Diocese of Providence will continue its mission of preaching the Gospel, advocating for what is right and just, and serving the needs of our community to the very best of our ability.

Without a doubt this is a time of challenge, even disappointment for many of us, but it is also an opportunity to be steadfast and courageous, and to renew our commitment to Christ and His Church. As our Lord Jesus Christ told us, “In the world you will have trouble, but take courage, I have conquered the world.” (Jn 16:33)

Dear brothers and sisters, through the intercession of our Blessed Mother, the Virgin Mary, may God be with you as you continue your journey of faith, and may He bless you and your families with His finest gifts, now and always.

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5 comments to Catholics: Examine Your Consciences Very Carefully Before Endorsing “Same-Sex Marrige”

  • Claude

    There will NEVER be an occasion when same sex “marriage” will be acceptable in the eyes of God. Neither will willfully aborting a baby at any stage from the moment of conception forward.
    It is impossible to be Christian of ANY denomination and support these positions.
    We must never hesitate to LOVINGLY address the errors of our brothers. Their souls are at stake!
    Praise be Jesus Christ, now and forever!

  • tg

    Thank Bishop Tobin. I pray my grandchildren will not be homosexuals. I know I would not be able to be part of their lives and accept their lifestyle. I am prepared to follow God first even if I lose a loved one. “What does it matter if you gained the whole world and lose your soul” or Whoever loses his life for my sake will gain it.” Words I try to live by. People forget that God is supposed to be first and then family.

  • Rob

    Won’t same sex marriage always be banned by the Catholic Church? Those who engage in such an arrangement will have to deal with God one day.

  • angela

    you do not understand what being Christ like is.
    Christ spoke the truth always, to do otherwise is to not be loving. To tell someone that living a lifestyle that goes against our physical, spiritual and emotional way we are created as man or woman is to encourage a way of living that is not life giving. Christ was not afraid to speak out against immoral behavior or activities that ultimately are destructive to our very selves. it is OUT of Love that the Catholic church is called to be the voice that speaks out the truth even when the culture says otherwise.

  • Michael

    Bishop Tobin,
    Thank you for standing up to the culture . I appreciated that you said:
    .” Our respect and pastoral care, however, does not mean that we are free to endorse or ignore immoral or destructive behavior, whenever or however it occurs. Indeed, as St. Paul urges us, we are required to “speak the truth in love.” (Eph 4:15)”
    Do you support Courage and Encourage in your diocese? These groups are speaking the ‘truth in love” with the issue of same sex attraction. As a parent of an adult child with same sex attraction I support and am thankful for these wonderful apostalates
    While always affirming the Catholic teaching of the dignity and value of every human person, they also remind that we are all called to live chaste lives . Sexual activity outside of sacramental one man and one woman married , fruitful- open to life, unbreakable-life long- permanent is against the dignity of the human person.
    It is to use the other person as an object, a means for gratification.
    Sadly too many even in the church do not understand why so called- same-sex marriage is not marriage and can never be marriage.

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