The Little Known Blessing of Parents After a Miscarriage or Stillbirth

By Father B. Jerabek, J.C.L., Father Jerabek’s Blog:

Our Lady of Guadalupe, pray for us!

Our Lady of Guadalupe, pray for all mothers!

I recently had the opportunity – for the first time in my 8.5 years as a priest – to do a “Blessing after Miscarriage”. I wanted to post about it, because I suspect that it is simply not widely known that it is even a possibility.

Nowadays, I ordinarily use the 1962 Roman Ritual for blessings, as I generally find the prayers contained therein to be more meaningful and efficacious. However, in this case, there is no such blessing found in the older rites! It is the newer Book of Blessings that has this ritual/blessing, in both a longer and a shorter form.

You can see a somewhat simplified form HERE. (In the actual Book of Blessings, there are some additional options given, as well as a short form – so I recommend to any priest who may want to offer this blessing to use the deadtree version and not the online edition.)

If you know anyone who has recently suffered a miscarriage, you might suggest that she approach her priest to receive this blessing.


More Resources:

Where is the Church in Pregnancy, Miscarriage, and Birth?

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4 comments to The Little Known Blessing of Parents After a Miscarriage or Stillbirth

  • Sara

    Hello, our priest just blessed me with this today, after a miscarriage. He used the standard 62 book of blessings, so it was partially in Latin. Just wanted to share.

    in a case where the child was stillborn
    or died after birth
    {The “Collectio Rituum,” both of Germany and the U. S., give the following blessing of a mother whose child was stillborn or died after birth.}
    The priest meets the woman at the threshold of the church, sprinkles her with holy water, and says:
    God’s peace be with you. Come into God’s house. Adore the Son of the blessed Virgin Mary, and ask God to console and comfort you.
    Then he leads her and those who accompany her to the altar. They kneel before the altar; whereas the priest goes up to the altar predella, turns to them, and says the following:
    Psalm 120
    P: I lift up my eyes toward the mountains; * whence shall help come to me?
    All: My help is from the Lord, * who made heaven and earth.
    P: May He not suffer your foot to slip; * may He who guards you not slumber;
    All: Indeed He neither slumbers nor sleeps, * the guardian of Israel.
    P: The Lord is your guardian; * the Lord is your shade; He is beside you at your right hand.
    All: The sun shall not harm you by day, * nor the moon by night.
    P: The Lord will guard you from all evil; * He will guard your life.
    All: The Lord will guard your coming and your going, * both now and forever.
    P: Glory be to the Father.
    All: As it was in the beginning.
    After the psalm the priest continues:
    Lord, have mercy. Christ, have mercy. Lord, have mercy. Our Father (the rest inaudibly until:)
    P: And lead us not into temptation.
    All: But deliver us from evil.
    P: Lord, heed my prayer.
    All: And let my cry be heard by you.
    P: The Lord be with you.
    All: May He also be with you.
    Let us pray.
    Almighty everlasting God, lover of holy purity, who chose in your wisdom and goodness to call this woman’s child to your heavenly kingdom; be pleased also, O Lord, to show your mercy to this servant of yours, comforting her with your love, helping her to accept bravely your holy will. Thus comforted by the merits of your sacred passion, and aided by the intercession of blessed Mary, ever a Virgin, and of all the saints, may she be united at last with her child for all eternity in the kingdom of heaven. We ask this of you who live and reign forever and ever.
    All: Amen.
    As he sprinkles her with holy water in the form of a cross, the priest concludes:
    May the peace and blessing of almighty God, Father, Son,

    and Holy Spirit, come upon you and remain with you forever.
    All: Amen.

  • Christopher LaRose

    Few are aware that parents can have a funeral and bury their miscarried or stillborn babies.

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